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TREAT. III.
Particular duties of Wiues.
SVbiection, the generall head of all wiues duties, §. 2.
1	Acknowledgment of an husbands ſuperioritie, §. 3.
2	A due eſteeme of her owne husband to be the beſt for her, and worthy of honour on her part, §. 5.
3	An inward wiue-like feare, §. 7.
4	An outward reuerend cariage towards her huſband, which conſiſteth in a wiue-like ſobrietie, mildneſſe, curteſie, and modeſtie in apparell, §. 9, 10, 11, 12.
5	Reuerend ſpeech to, and of her husband, §. 13, 14, 15, 16.
6	Obedience, §. 17.
7	Forbearing to doe without or againſt her huſbands conſent, ſuch things as he hath power to order, as, to diſpoſe and order the common goods of the familie, and the allowance for it, or children, ſeruants, cattell, gueſts, iournies, &c. §. 18, 23, 38, 39, 40, 41.
8	A ready yeelding to what her husband would hauehave done. This is manifeſted by her willingneſſe to dwell where he will, to come when he calls, and to doe what he requireth, §. 43, 44, 45, 46.
9	A patient bearing of any reproofe, and a ready redreſſing of that for which ſhe is iuſtly reproued, §. 47, 48.
10	Contentment with her husbands preſent eſtate, §. 49.
11	Such a ſubiection as may ſtand with her ſubiection to Chriſt, §. 51.
12	Such a ſubiection as the Church yeeldeth to Chriſt, which is ſincere, pure, cheerefull, conſtant, for conſcience ſake, §. 54, 55, &c.

TREAT. IV.
Particular duties of Husbands.
WJſdome and LoueLove, the generall heads of all husbands duties, §. 2, 4.
1	Acknowledgment of a wiues neere coniunction, and fellowſhip with her husband, §. 6.
2	A good eſteeme of his owne wiſe to be the beſt for him, and worthy of louelove on his part, §. 9.
3	An inward intire affection, §. 11.
4	An outward amiable cariage towards his wife, which conſiſteth in an husband-like grauitie, mildneſſe, courteous acceptance of her curteſie, and allowing her to weare fit apparell, §. 4, 15, 22, 40, 49.
5	Milde and louing ſpeech to and of his wife, §. 24 25, 26, &c.
6	A wiſe maintaining his authoritie, and forbearing to exact all that is in his power, §. 4, 18.
7	A ready yeelding to his wiues requeſt, and giuing a generall conſent and libertie vntounto her to order the affaires of the houſe, children, ſeruants, &c. And a free allowing her ſomething to beſtow as ſhe ſeeth occaſion, §. 18, 54.
8	A forbearing to exact more then his wife is willing to doe, or to force her to dwell where it is not meet, or to enioyne her to doe things vnmeet in themſelues, or againſt her minde, §. 18, 26.
9	A wiſe ordering of reproofe: not vſing it without iuſt and weighty cauſe, and then priuatly, and meekly, §. 35, 38.
10	A prouident care for his wife, according to his abilitie, §. 46, 49, 50, 52.
11	A forbearing to exact any thing which ſtands not with a good conſcience, §. 26.
12	Such a louelove, as Chriſt beareth to the Church, and man to himſelfe, which is firſt free, in deed, and truth, pure, chaſte, conſtant, §. 61, &c. and 74.

TREAT. III.
Aberrations of Wiues from their particular duties.
AMbition, the generall ground of the aberrations of wiues, §. 2.
1	A conceit that wiues are their husbands equals, §. 4.
2	A conceit that ſhe could better ſubiect her ſelfe to any other man then to her owne husband, §. 6.
3	An inward deſpiſing of her husband, §. 8.
4	Vnreuerend behauiour towards her husband, manifeſted by lightneſſe, fullenneſſe, ſcornfulnes, and vanitie in her attire, §. 9, 10, 11, 12.
5	Vnreuerend ſpeech to and of her husband, §. 13, 14, 15, 16.
6	A ſtout ſtanding on her owne will, §. 17.
7	A peremptorie vndertaking to doe things as ſhe liſt without and againſt her husbands conſent. This is manifeſted by priuie purloyning his goods, taking allowance, ordering children, ſeruants, and cattell, feaſting ſtrangers, making iourneyes, and vowes, as her ſelfe liſteth, §. 42.
8	An obſtinate ſtanding vponupon her owne will, making her husband dwell where ſhe will, and refuſing to goe when he calls, or to doe any thing vponupon his command, §. 44, 45, 46, 67.
9	Diſdaine at reproofe; giuing word for word; and waxing worſe for being reproued, §. 47, 48.
10	Diſcontent at her husbands eſtate, §. 50.
11	Such a pleaſing of her husband as offendeth Chriſt, §. 53.
12	Such a ſubiection as is moſt vnlike to the Churches, viz. fained, forced, fickle, &c. §. 56, &c.

TREAT. IV.
Aberrations of Husbands from their particular duties.
WAnt of wiſdome and louelove, the generall ground of the aberrations of husbands, §. 3, 5.
1	Too meane account of wiues, §. 8.
2	A prepoſterous conceit of his owne wife to be the worſt of all: and that he could louelove any but her, §. 10.
3	A Stoicall diſpoſition, without all heat of affection, §. 12.
4	An vnbeſeeming cariage towards his wife, manifeſted by his baſeneſſe, tyrannicall vſage of her, loftineſſe, harſhneſſe, and niggardlineſſe, §. 5, 15, 17, 41, 44, 53.
5	Harſh, proud, and bitter ſpeeches, to and of his wife, §. 24, 25, 30, 32, 36, 39.
6	Loſing of his authoritie, §. 5.
7	Too much ſtrictneſſe ouer his wife. This is manifeſted by reſtraining her from doing any thing without particular and expreſſe conſent, taking too ſtrict account of her, and allowing her no more then is needfull for her owne priuate vſe, §. 19, 55.
8	Too lordly a ſtanding vponupon the higheſt ſtep of his authoritie: being too frequent, inſolent, and peremptorie in commanding things friuolous, vnmeet, and againſt his wiues minde and conſcience, §. 30, 32.
9	Raſhneſſe and bitterneſſe in reprouing: and that too frequently, on ſleight occaſions, and diſgracefully before children, ſeruants, and ſtrangers, §. 36, 38, 39.
10	A careleſſe neglect of his wife, and niggardly dealing with her, and that in her weakneſſe, §. 46, 51, 53
11	A commanding of vnlawfull things, §. 26, 30, 32.
12	Such a diſpoſition as is moſt vnlike to Chriſts, and to that which a man beareth to himſelfe, viz. complementall, impure, for by-reſpects, vnconſtant, &c. §. 62, &c. and 74.